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Help! My Husband Had An Affair With A 16 Year Old

So, what do you do when you learn that your husband has been having not only an affair but an affair with a 16 year old? It has to be one of the most devastating things one can learn…..

What do you do?

Where do you go from this point?

Read the question that came in below and listen in…..

 

Please help! Should I stay or should I go? I have been married for 17 years, I have 3 beautiful children. 13, 11, and 6. There is a lot of background to my story. My husband is 35 years old. He was unfaithful. He had an affair with a 16 year old GIRL. His affair was mostly emotional. But it was physical on one occasion, not justifying just explaining. He had a very intense makeout session with this Girl where he did touch her breasts and private areas under her clothing. I found out they kissed, I wasn’t  aware of the touching at this point. Anyway I turned him in to her mother and the authorities. My husband is disgusted in himself. He regrets it deeply. I don’t know what to do. I am in no way able to sustain my household on my own. My husband is making sincere efforts to “gain back my trust” , and “be an honorable man”. I don’t know if its to save face or if it is real. It is so shocking to realize that this good loving man that I have adored and cherished for so long is not even someone I know. He hasn’t gone to court yet, the case is still being investigated and I’m sure he will have some jail time. I feel so sorry for this young woman. She said to her mom that she didn’t like my husband in that way but she hated me and wanted to hurt me so seduced him. I’m so lost and so confused. My children are suffering. They beg me to not breakup with dad. Sadly my oldest daughter saw them kiss and that is how I found, out so I can’t hide it from her. Please pray for my family. Please pray for this 16 year old to get the help she needs and please pray that I make the right choices. I’m so confused. I feel disgusted in myself that I am in love with a man that can put his hands on a 16 year old girl. They had texts conversations for over a year that he denied and lied to me about until I confronted him him with proof. He told her he lived her. He told her things about me. He cut his hair for her. She asked him to wait for her till she was 18 and he said he would be here. I don’t know what that means. It is so hard to remove my emotion from the situation and make rational decisions. I’m just feel hopeless and broken. I have started counceling. I am just so confused. I have always been a good wife and mom and I know I have to be strong right now. I know he is sorry but I think if I didn’t turn him in he’d still be fooling around. 🙁